Maybe actions don't speak that loudly

     I am a firm believer in the saying, "Actions speak louder than words". But I have found an exception to this rule. This rule applies when it comes to honesty between people or if people say they will do something and they don't end up doing it. For example, in a relationship, if a person keeps saying they will change and make things better, but they never do anything about it then that is when "actions speak louder than words" applies. That person is saying things that they honestly don't feel in their hearts which shows through their absent actions...Now the exception is when you look at what a person chooses to do and if you don't agree with their decision you automatically (maybe not even purposefully) put it in your head that they are a bad person. In my life I have been guilty of this many times. I've looked at people I don't truly know and decide they are a bad person just because of their actions that I don't agree with.

   Doing this ^^^^^^^ is wrong. Who am I to say someone is a good or bad person or not? Who am I to say that I'm a good person either if I'm passing judgement on things I hear from people and see from them on the weekends? I don't know the roads they have traveled in life, I don't know what they've been through. Maybe the things they have been through have led them to the decisions they make now. We don't know who a person is just by looking at the cover. There are a lot of people that I love in my life that make poor decisions that I don't agree with. But do those actions define who they are as a person? Absolutely not. I've come to the conclusion that you can't say a person is good or bad unless you have taken the time to genuinely get to know their heart. Without truly getting to know someone you can't act like you know them just by the party you saw them at last weekend. Unless you've tried to learn about their life you can't act like you know who they are and the type of person they are.
    I've come to realize there aren't as many "bad" people out their as I thought. I still get upset when I think about some of the decisions people I care about make, but I'm working on it. No one can say they are better than anyone else. I'm working hard at not judging people I don't personally know just because of what I "know" about them. I don't know what their life's about, I don't know what trials God has asked them to walk through. Everyone is fighting their own battle, some people are just really good at hiding it. So what I'm getting at is don't decide how you feel about a person just because of their actions. Actions are still really important, but we don't know where their heart truly is unless we try to find out. People put on shows in front of other people all the time, not everyone is their true selves in front of a crowd. Again, I DO believe that a person's actions are important, but they NEVER define who that person is on the inside. I've found some of the most caring, and genuine people in a crowd that I would never even have thought to have looked. There is always some good to be found in everyone. Learn their heart before you define a person by the poor decisions they make. Try to get to know someone you don't particularly like, you may be surprised. Everyone deserves a fair chance. I hope I wrote this out at clearly and understandable as I could, there were just so many things I wanted to say floating around in my head.